Many writers are introverts—deep thinkers who enjoy solitude and get their best ideas in quiet moments. But in the publishing world, connections matter. Whether you’re looking for beta readers, a writing group, or industry contacts, you can’t ignore networking forever.
You don’t need to fake extroversion or push yourself into uncomfortable situations. You just need to do it your way.
What Introversion Is (and Isn’t)
Introversion isn’t the same as shyness. That’s a common myth.
Shyness is fear of being judged. Introversion is about where you focus your energy. You prefer your inner world over constant social interaction.
It doesn’t mean you’re scared of people’s judgment. That’s social anxiety. It just means you recharge by being alone or having deep, one-on-one conversations. You listen, observe, and think before speaking.
It’s not a flaw—it’s one of your biggest strengths. The same qualities that make you an introvert can become your strengths when networking:
- You’re great at active listening.
- You form meaningful one-on-one connections.
- You ask thoughtful questions.
- And you follow up with intention.
While others may focus on being seen, you focus on being present, and that leaves a lasting impression.
Why Networking Feels Tough
Networking can feel like a performance, and introverts aren’t fans of pretending. Here’s what often makes it tough:
Too Much Stimulation
Large gatherings drain your mental battery quickly. A three-hour networking mixer might leave you needing a full day to recover.
Small Talk Struggles
You want to join the conversation but find it hard when it stays on the surface. It’s not that others are shallow—it’s just that there isn’t enough rapport yet to steer things toward the deeper topics you enjoy.
In large gatherings, that kind of connection takes time. And keeping your social energy switched on the whole time can be exhausting.
Self-Promotion Feels Awkward
Talking about your achievements and work doesn’t come naturally. You worry about seeming boastful or inauthentic.
Overwhelm
Networking events can be crowded, with dozens or even hundreds of people. It’s hard to focus on forming real connections in all that noise. Plus, the sensory overload—from voices, lights, and constant movement—can quickly wear you out.
Hesitation to Follow Up
After gathering business cards or contact info, you pause. You’re not sure what to say or worry you’ll come off as a bother.
How to Network as an Introverted Writer
If you find networking hard to do as an introvert, change how you think about it.
Shift How You Think About Networking
Stop thinking of networking as selling yourself. It’s not about pushing your book or being loud. It’s about building relationships. Keep it human, and it becomes easier.
Writers connect through stories, and everyone has one. Get curious about other people’s journeys.
Start Small and Be Selective
Your goal isn’t to meet everyone in the room. Focus instead on having two or three meaningful conversations. One solid connection beats ten superficial ones every time.
And you don’t need to attend every writing event or workshop. Choose one small event or online group that feels manageable. Before you go, set one goal: say hello to someone new, ask a question, or just listen and learn.
Go Online
Online networking is gold for introverts. You get time to think, respond at your own pace, and choose when to engage.
Try writing forums or dedicated spaces on social media platforms. Leave thoughtful comments. Share helpful posts. Ask questions. These small actions build visibility and trust.
Have Conversation Starters Ready
Prep helps. Before events (in-person or virtual), come up with a few go-to openers:
- “What are you working on right now?”
- “Have you been to this event before?”
- “What genres do you write or read?”
You don’t need a script. Just a few ideas to fall back on when your brain hits pause.
Let Your Work Start the Conversation
Share your writing online. Post short stories, articles, or writing tips. This gives people something to connect with, without you having to do all the talking.
Comment on others’ work, too. It’s a great way to start low-pressure conversations.
Follow Up (the Easy Way)
After connecting with someone, send a quick note. Mention something you talked about. Thank them for the conversation. Maybe even invite them for coffee or a virtual chat.
This shows you care and helps them remember you. It doesn’t need to be long—just sincere.
Know Your Limits
You don’t have to do everything. Leave an event early if needed. Skip the after-party. Block off quiet time before or after a big event.
You’re not being antisocial, just managing your energy.
Create the Community You Want
If you don’t see the kind of connection you want, you can build it on your terms. Start a writing group with just a few like-minded people. Host a virtual write-in. Build the space that feels safe and supportive for you.
Conclusion
Being an introvert isn’t a weakness. You just approach things differently—and that’s okay. When you work with your natural temperament instead of against it, you can build a network that supports your writing without draining your creative energy.
You don’t need to be loud or outgoing to network well. You just need to be yourself—intentional, curious, and present. It all starts with showing up in small, genuine ways.
How do you network as an introvert? Share your thoughts below!
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Cole is a blog writer and aspiring novelist. He has a degree in Communications and is an advocate of media and information literacy and responsible media practices. Aside from his interest in technology, crafts, and food, he’s also your typical science fiction and fantasy junkie, spending most of his free time reading through an ever-growing to-be-read list. It’s either that or procrastinating over actually writing his book. Wish him luck!
